Masculinity, Predators, and Pronouns

One Mom’s Email to Her Gender-confused Son

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Earlier this week, I read an article about how a trans-identifying boy won the Girls’ Irish Dancing Competition in order to head to the Worlds in the U14 division.

Parents expressed their outrage on having to explain to their 13-year-old daughters how a boy with physical advantages is allowed to take the prestigious title from them after they’ve worked so hard for it.

The boy’s name was omitted from the article since he was a minor; however, the author noted that the child previously placed 11^th place in the Boys’ World Championships earlier this year.

Today, we’re going to explore an email from a mom challenging her son’s choice to alter his identity. As implicated in the account above, parents have a profound impact on how a child views himself. A thirteen-year-old boy could not register for the girls' division without parental involvement. In the same way, college students still depend on those they trust the most to speak the truth with love and compassion.

Although this letter is hypothetical, the situation is not. Many parents are struggling with how to confront their young adults on this critical issue.

Here we go…

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Sebastian,

Hi, son. Hope all is going well for you at school. Looking forward to seeing you home for Christmas.

While I hesitated to do this, I wanted to clear the air before we saw each other next week. I’m deeply disturbed by something your sister told me after visiting you at college. She said that you have grown out your hair, started asking your friends to call you Sarah, and even changed your preferred pronouns on social media to “she/her.”

Bud, this toxic masculinity crap you’re being fed at college is nonsense. Real women need strong, masculine men who will provide for and protect them and the children they have together. You already know what happens when a father is not in the home to protect and discipline his kids because you were one of them.

The truth is, a large percentage of men who claim to transition to becoming women only do it so that they can take advantage of real women. They are predators. Look at inmates who claim to be transgender and then rape and impregnate the female inmates. It’s disgusting.

Even if you are not a predator, you will be seen as one. Women will never be comfortable sharing their restroom or locker room with you—ever. So which bathroom will you use? Men will harass you ruthlessly, and women will kick you out.

I know your “friends” are telling you how brave you are and that they truly believe you are a woman. I say this in love, but these people are taking advantage of you. If they really loved you, they wouldn’t feed into the craziness that you’re telling yourself.

They’re lying to you. Everyone knows what a woman is; they are just afraid to say it.

I also know that you said that you don’t have a choice. This is how God made you. As your mother, I want to challenge you on that. Did you decide what clothes to wear this morning? Did you decide where you’re going and who you’re going to meet up with today? Did you pick out that 2018 Jeep Cherokee that you bought last month? Using MY money, I might add!

Admittedly, I understand some of your confusion. Even institutions that we should be able to trust are pushing this insanity. The CDC recently put out guidance for “chest feeders.” Seriously? These are sick, delusional men who are willing to sacrifice the health and well-being of an infant in order to perpetuate this charade. A real mother would never do that. We are willing to risk our own health and well-being to take care of our children. Are you prepared to do that?

I would also like to point out that God did not make you that way. If he made you a woman, I assure you he would’ve given you the parts to match. And I know you’re not thinking this way now, but one day, you will stand before God and have to give an account for what He gave you. By rejecting that you are a man, you are shaking an angry fist at God. It would break my heart to think that I may not see you someday in heaven. It would absolutely break my heart.

I know it crushed you when your father left us. He wasn’t around to model what a real man does and how he takes care of his family. I deeply regret that and wish I could go back and change it. But I can’t.

However, you have that opportunity to break the cycle of dysfunction. You can get married, have children, and teach your sons what it is to be a man. You can show him how to protect his weaker siblings and eventually his own wife and children.

I’m begging you, Sebastian, to man-up and reject this social contagion threatening to disrupt civilized society as we know it. Real men protect women, not exploit them.

Love always,

Mom

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Thanks so much for reading today. Remember to always pursue the truth—even when it makes the conversation uncomfortable. Enjoy this Christmas season, and I’ll see you next week.