No, Love isn’t Always Love

Exploring who suffers when society redefines sexuality and morality.

Imagine this scenario. I go to the store and purchase a new coffee maker. When I bring it home and set it up, I throw away the directions because no one could tell me what to do with MY coffee maker.

So, I put ground turkey in the filter instead of ground coffee. Yes, it is my choice—but I am not happy with the results.

Have you ever purchased a small appliance from the store or online? Regardless of the manufacturer, each product’s instructions are similar: “For best results, use as directed.” Additionally, many warranties won’t cover problems if you misuse a product or change how it works.

Similarly, the Creator and Author of Mankind designed the human body to function in a specific way—especially human sexuality. God created us male and female, designed marriage between one man and one woman, and conceived sex to be shared within that mutually exclusive one-man-one-woman relationship for a lifetime.

All other sexual activity is outside God’s design and can lead to less than favorable results. Consider the possible consequences when sexuality is misused: fatherless households, transmitted disease, abusive partners, broken hearts and relationships, and so on.

Now, I understand what a hot-button this discussion can be. So many of us have friends and family members who are cohabitating or involved in same-sex unions. We love and want to support them—especially if our children are involved.

However, we can validate them as individuals without buying into their alternate reality. Because, as believers in Jesus, we can’t ignore the warnings in Scripture and expect these relationships to thrive.

For example, do you know the leading cause of death for pregnant women? Homicide. Pregnant women are more likely to die from intimate partner violence, often perpetrated by a boyfriend, than from medical causes, according to an October 2022 ABC news article. Read more here.

Now consider the latest misinformation campaign that inundates us whenever we watch a commercial on TV or walk into a coffee shop. This notion is that "love is love." The implication is, of course, that all romantic relationships are created equal. Whom you love doesn't matter because we can't choose our romantic attractions; they choose us.

On the surface, this sounds legitimate. Because, as individuals, our Creator has granted us free will, and we have the right and responsibility to make our own decisions. No one likes to be told what to do and how to do it.

You are your own person and can make any choice you would like. But how is that working for you?

Redefining Marriage and Sexuality

Many in our society have bought this lie that "love is love." As a result, these individuals have rebelled against social norms and God only to find that, like my gross cup of coffee, they are unhappy with the results.

Homosexuality, and same-sex marriage, by extension, is one misuse of sexuality, according to Scripture. Leviticus 18:22 describes a man sleeping with another man, as he would with a woman, as an abomination. In the New Testament, Paul says that individuals receive in themselves a “due penalty for their error” (Romans 1:27).

Even though we are told to believe that same-sex couples experience the same level of marital satisfaction as their traditional counterparts, is that true? Or do they experience repercussions for their choices? Let’s consider some statistics.

• Same-sex couples who marry are more likely to divorce—61% file annually for divorce compared to 41% of first marriages for heterosexual couples (U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, 2022).

• According to the Finances Online website, the median duration of marriages between two females is 4.1 years and 4.3 years for two males.

• In contrast, the median duration of first marriages for heterosexual couples is 18 years, with 41% of this demographic making it to their 25-year wedding anniversary.

• Fidelity rates among homosexual males are extremely low—only 4.5% remain faithful compared to 75.5% for married heterosexual men. In one study, 28% of homosexual men admitted to having more than 1,000 partners.

A bizarre phenomenon occurred in the aftermath of the Supreme Court decision in Obergefell vs. Hodges to legalize Same-Sex marriage on June 26, 2015. Divorce rates for same-sex couples married before 2015 skyrocketed immediately after these unions were recognized nationwide!

According to the US National Center for Health Statistics, courthouses in liberal states who previously recognized gay marriage became inundated with same-sex couples filing for divorce.

Brandon Mill, who owns a famous “THEGAAYBAR” in San Francisco, made the following observation:

“Couples realized their marriages were unlikely to be annulled by another law banning gay marriage and that they were probably stuck with each other for the rest of their lives. And that’s pretty scary!!!” Read the article here.

It would almost appear that the activists intent on legalizing same-sex unions were not the individuals in those unions. This begs the question, who benefits from the legalization of gay marriage?

Someone benefits, that’s for certain. For example, the wedding industry saw an increase of $16.8 billion. Additionally, local economies saw an increase in tax revenue. New York City alone collected an additional $142 million in taxes due to legalizing same-sex marriage. Read more here.

And, considering the average cost for a divorce, including attorney's fees, is $12,900, that industry experienced a big bump, also.

The Wrap Up

What is behind the dramatic shift in values? Who benefits from redefining marriage, sexuality, and morality in general? The short answer is to always follow the money and power.

The troubling truth is that when governments, corporations, and people in power attempt to subvert the natural order, they arbitrarily select winners and losers. Instead of all parties enjoying our God-given benefits and protections, the weakest ones in that society always suffer.

Guess who wins. Not us. Those in power benefit the most.

So, no, love isn't always love. The word love has been hijacked and weaponized.

No, love isn’t always love. The word is often used as a way to disguise abuse and exploitation.

No, love isn't always love. You absolutely can choose who you love. That's the upside to free will.

And, no, love isn't always love—sometimes it's perversion.

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“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.”

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

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In this book, we will discuss how to challenge common narratives such as Love is Love, Christians Should be more Tolerant, Marriage Equality, Words are Violence and much more.